Situations

People are placed in different situations everyday. All of these situations are different, and people do different things in different situations. We classify them as good or bad but in reality, there isn't a "good" or "bad" situation. As I've said before, perspective plays a key role. Perspective plays a key role in a lot of things related to us humans because we are the only ones with reason enough to have different perspectives from one another. I'm getting derailed here..
As I was saying, situations are just situations. And based on our experiences, some situations may be stressful, or funny, or desperate, or ironic, or lucky, etc. I can't stress enough the importance of our perception in assessing situations.

I've heard someone say before that nothing is unfortunate if you don't consider it unfortunate. I've heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I've heard that every cloud has a silver lining. What do all of these have in common? They all have something to do with how we perceive the world around us. Perception.

Perception and situation go hand-in-hand. How we perceive things is based on our previous experience of a similar situation, and yet we classify a situation based on our perception. That's how events change peoples' outlook on life. That's how peoples' outlook determine their actions or reactions to events. It's just a circle, and yet each time it revolves, a small part of it is changed. That's how people change: little by little. Change too much too fast and we risk deforming the circle. Blacksmithing has a similar principle. You strike while the iron is hot, but not too much or else instead of molding the metal, you break it. Or in pottery, a constant steady application of pressure molds the clay into jars. Jerky movements deform the clay.

The point is, change is slow. But it happens. And our perception changes with each situation we encounter. We may not notice it happening, but when we look back to our past, can we honestly say that we are still the same persons we were before? I doubt it. When did we change? It's not a question of when really. The more important question is why. Why did we change? Did we change in order to cope with the situations that life indifferently presents us? Did we change in order to face those situations or did we change in order to hide from them? These are questions only we can answer because we are the ones that hammered them there, one day at a time.

Humans are more malleable than we care to think. And also much more fragile. Hammer with care - we change others too.